Loved this essay, well done Jake! It is such a relatable feeling, how sometimes we approach social interactions from a place of abundance and excitement and other times from insecurity or competition. It sort of reminds me of the nervous system and being in a ventral vagal state versus a sympathetic state. Really thought provoking and beautifully written!
Of course there’s a neurological explanation! :) I wonder if we get predisposed to being in one state versus the other and how much influence we have over that 🤔
From my understanding you are right, that we all have certain nervous system states that we return to more than others. The best book I’ve ever read about becoming a more conscious operator of our nervous systems is Anchored by Deb Dana if you ever get interested into doing a deep dive
Jake, this was so powerful and so relatable — and not just because I live in Buenos Aires and I know the twins, and the unusually expensive and expat-heavy gay bar, that you're mentioning! If you're still in town, let’s grab coffee sometime.
Jake, I really like this courageously vulnerable piece, your introspective approach to identity, change, and comparison. You are reminding me of the importance of this topic, and now I want to write about this too: How "putting us out there" in foreign countries, speaking in second languages shapes us in such beautiful ways, but can also be felt as shock waves rippling (and ripping) through the essence (or construction?) of ourselves.
(You are also citing one of my favorite quotes of all time, love it! It's from Jack Gilbert, not David Whyte)
Loved this essay, well done Jake! It is such a relatable feeling, how sometimes we approach social interactions from a place of abundance and excitement and other times from insecurity or competition. It sort of reminds me of the nervous system and being in a ventral vagal state versus a sympathetic state. Really thought provoking and beautifully written!
Of course there’s a neurological explanation! :) I wonder if we get predisposed to being in one state versus the other and how much influence we have over that 🤔
From my understanding you are right, that we all have certain nervous system states that we return to more than others. The best book I’ve ever read about becoming a more conscious operator of our nervous systems is Anchored by Deb Dana if you ever get interested into doing a deep dive
Jake, this was so powerful and so relatable — and not just because I live in Buenos Aires and I know the twins, and the unusually expensive and expat-heavy gay bar, that you're mentioning! If you're still in town, let’s grab coffee sometime.
Aww, I'm glad this reached you! Yes, I'd love to grab coffee :)
Jake, I really like this courageously vulnerable piece, your introspective approach to identity, change, and comparison. You are reminding me of the importance of this topic, and now I want to write about this too: How "putting us out there" in foreign countries, speaking in second languages shapes us in such beautiful ways, but can also be felt as shock waves rippling (and ripping) through the essence (or construction?) of ourselves.
(You are also citing one of my favorite quotes of all time, love it! It's from Jack Gilbert, not David Whyte)
Ahhh, my memory led me to spread misinformation online. Updating that citation ~
And thank you for the kind words :)
Such awe-inspiring, raw, and creative work vis–à-vis a difficult & important topic, Dana. Yes to life, yes to joy, yes to all. Despite everything…